Marriage is a risky experiment for those who have any degree of advancement along the path. The conditions under which it may succeed are hard to satisfy, but occasionally such successes occur. The higher degrees of the Quest call for a total renunciation of everything earthly, animal, and human. This must be inwardly attained, it must be real in thought and feeling, after which it does not matter whether or not there is outward renunciation in any direction. A mere external asceticism solves no problems but it is helpful to beginners. That other self of the aspirant which is his divine soul will, as and when its presence becomes vivid and intimate, become also the Most Beloved. No man or woman could give him its equivalent in satisfaction, however much he loves and however much that love is returned. He may marry if he wants to, but it must be with the clear knowledge that marriage is unable to yield him more than second-best happiness.
-- Notebooks Category 13: Human Experience > Chapter 2 : Living in The World > # 462
