Possessive love is natural. We want to have and keep what we love. But when its object is another human being, there is an inevitable desire for the return of our love, for the restriction of their affection to us alone, so that what we give is not given in purity but in extended selfishness. Hence when others love you they want to deprive you of your freedom. But when the disciple loves you, he must give you your freedom.
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